PEER PRESSURE

Whoever said that peer pressure is just for young teenagers they lied. Peer pressure is definitely everywhere, something that human beings live with daily day in day out. What matters is just how one handles it. Your reaction or action to peer pressure is the ultimate decision that one has to make and later deal with the consequences.

I consider myself old skul (ok am not that old really) I thank God for being born when I was born. I mean peer pressure for us was talking to the hottest guy in your neighboring school (I mean talking REAL talking no hidden meaning), receiving the most mail knowing the latest songs and the latest dance moves, the latest music bands and so many other things that were not dangerous at all. Ok there was a bit of alcohol though not so much and then back then it was so cool to be a virgin. Oh my word, the good old days. I happen to have a sibling who is a teenager, SHE IS A GIRL and that scares me shitless. I think girls now have to face worse issues compared to my days. For us it was just the pimples and the body but there was really nothing you could do about it. Right now there is the internet which is overflowing with information both good and bad. Sites that lie to you about how to get the right body by doing the most bizarre things you can think about. Over the counter pills and all that lie about how much it can do for your skin. Then there is the mobile phone, lawd that gadget is a necessary evil but for teens I kinda find them more of a destruction and distraction worse is that it comes with the internet option. OMG what is that little person doing constantly staring on that screen I mean they could be some raunchy photos of their friend. Sexuality issues are also knocking on the door wanting to find out which way they actually swing.

The media on the other hand is not doing anything to help. Sex has been taken to a whole new level. It has been glorified like nobody's business. Everywhere you turn there are some sexual undertones right from a simple advert of a beverage to clothes to books to gadgets to just everything. Even eating you have to do it in a sexy way eiish too much. And so now it is NOT cool to be a virgin in fact you can become a serious laughing stock. With this era of HIV this kids need to be a bit more careful thing is some of them have the virus (maybe they were born with it and have no clue) then they go ahead engage in unprotected sex and others get infected too. With the whole living life on the fast lane I think the adults have also lost the whole mentoring thing they are simply never there for them. They need guidance and talking to but no one has time. This is so wrong, I do pray that I will have time for my kids when they come.

Leaving that behind you thought you are done with peer pressure am sorry to burst your bubble but there is more coming your way. Campus or college. You want so bad to fit it in plus here there are no rules no regulations it is an ANYTHING GOES SOCIETY. What more could one ask for? I mean after 4 years of being herded together like goats its time to let loose and sure thing they do let loose. Some forget the purpose for going to school. They forget their situation back at home and seek to fit in with the rest some who have it in excesses. If this is not put into check the girls and boys too seek other ways of fending for themselves. It could be drugs, an older man or woman (and I mean WAY OLDER), prostitution and all kinds of vices to make "ends" meet. Well not all choose this path some are actually good. They keep a sane mind despite all the madness of experimenting some make a wrong turn but make a decision to make the right choices.

That said the work place is sure waiting for you and if you thought it was over with peer pressure you are so mistaken. You meet him or her a classmate in primary school but you just started out hell no is that a chevrolet calvita s/he is driving? Invites for lunch at her/his place and it is a mansion and where my dear are you holed up? The urge to fit in hits you hard and if you are not careful you succumb. You want all that so bad you are willing to do anything. You end being what? A drug pusher a mistress perhaps or engage in some night time activities? Nobody will judge you but those are decisions you made and surely they will weigh you down. 

Something that always rings in my mind is a story I once heard on radio. Its a sad one. A 24 year old young lass gets involved with a minister. He gives her heaven on earth. Her own apartment and car later, she is to spend the rest of her life on ARVs and the man is gone he moved on to another conquest. The lass had called in to the show to just give her two cents and said if she knew what she new now she would be different.

I know I digressed abit there but I needed to share my thoughts on that. This is wk 3 day 2 I will be grateful of what I have and strive for more but I will not entertain greed. Great day.